7 Strategies for Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

We tend to think that most opposition comes from around us—a complaining spouse, a controlling boss, a road-raging driver—but rarely do we acknowledge the truth of the matter: we are often our own worst enemies. Here are a few ways to stop self-defeating behavior.

#1: Let go of triumph

It's good to win, but you don't have to win all the time. The desire for triumph can often lead to a person continuing along a path of ignorance, wastefulness, and irresponsibility. On the other hand, it's occasionally better to acknowledge defeat and earn a lesson instead.

#2: Stop attempting to please everyone

You can't make everyone pleased all of the time. Rushing around and attempting to make other people happy is a major source of self-defeating behavior. Trying to please everyone all of the time, whether at business or in personal relationships, can cost you your health and peace of mind.

#3: Accept imperfection as a part of life

If you're looking for perfection, you'll never find it. Why did Michelangelo continue to work on the Sistine Chapel because it wasn't precisely how he wanted? There would be no progress! You can't be flawless, and you're the only one who sees your mistakes most of the time.

#4: Break bad habits

Most people nowadays have harmful habits related to technology, such as continuously checking our email or social media accounts. Examine how you spend your time. Make a careful track of the minutes and hours to see how much time you're squandering on various activities.

#5: Overcome your fear

Most people are held back by fear when it comes to living a life with a higher purpose. You can't fly unless you jump, and you can't jump unless you're terrified. Fear does not have to be a direct feeling of apprehension. It could be masked as sloth or avoidance.

#6: Stop acting like a lone wolf

Even lone wolves require assistance from time to time. Don't be embarrassed to ask for help when you need it, because a strong, self-imposed sense of independence may be doing you more harm than good. Make friends, accept help, and request help when needed, whether in business or in personal life.

#7: Let go of the guilt

Allow yourself to enjoy life, even if your history has been a stumbling block. People can change and evolve, so don't let your past define you. Most of us have been trained to believe that we must work away for someone else and just enjoy ourselves on weekends, but you can break free from this thinking prison.